Have you ever wondered why some people get closer to their goal every day and achieve it in a very short period of time, while others simply live as they have to, without thinking much about it? tomorrow? As a result, they meet old age, understanding that they do not have to brag about any special successes.

The answer to the question why this happens is very simple - the first people live according to their life plan, while others do not even think about it, but simply go with the flow of life. However, even the mere presence of such a plan does not guarantee success, because when drawing it up you can make a lot of mistakes, as a result of which they simply will not be of any use, you will only waste time in vain.

To prevent this from happening, right now Fotrader magazine will list 10 most important recommendations for making life plans, which were given by experts on planning and time management.

No. 1. Always start small

Imagine that in a year you will have your own sports car and two-story house, it’s always nice, but your fantasies don’t come true without your participation. It’s much better to start planning your life from one day, writing down hourly what goals you should achieve.

It's simple and very convenient. The most important thing is that each such goal brings you closer to an even greater goal, even just one small step. Remember, there are 60 minutes in one hour, and every minute should be spent usefully.

Make a clear plan for the day and see how you manage to follow it, how effective your actions are.

No. 2. Determine what exactly you want to achieve in the near future

Alas, many of us often pursue certain goals, and when we achieve them, we understand that these were not their thoughts and desires at all, they were imposed from the outside, and therefore achieving them does not bring any pleasure. So stop right here and now and think about who you see yourself in the future.

you built successful career? Have you become financially independent? Created a strong and happy family? After all, if one person dreams of becoming the head of a corporation, another dreams of a house in the forest, where it will be quiet and peaceful.

No. 3. Make a list of tasks that need to be completed

It is important not only to set goals, but also to identify the tasks that will lead to their achievement. First, identify areas of activity that are important to you that you need to work on, and then under each of them make a list of actions that will ensure results.

No. 4. Create plans for each period

For five years, 10 years, the rest of your life, and, of course, for six months and a year. Each list should be accompanied by a list of tasks, and you should have a plan for the next six months in your work, and now you should complete the tasks specified in it.

As for plans for a longer period, they should be hung on the wall, preferably so that they are constantly in front of your eyes, and you remember what you are working tirelessly for.

No. 5. Analyze your results

Don't just make a plan and complete tasks one by one, but analyze the results. Once a task is completed, it should be removed from the plan. How? Just cross it out. Once a certain period has been passed, you can easily analyze the results obtained - how many tasks you set for yourself, how many of them were completed, and which ones could not be completed and for what reasons.

#6: Don’t forget to set specific goals and objectives for yourself.

“I will lose weight someday in the future” or “I want to become slim” are not goals at all, but your desires. Goals are set differently - “I will lose 10 kg in 5 months,” or “I will wear my favorite dress in a month.”

The goal should have a specific deadline, and it should be specific, not vague.

No. 7. Write down tasks in a notepad

All tasks and goals must be written down. If you once correctly formulated a goal, mentally identified tasks to achieve it, but forgot to write it all down, consider that you have not done anything useful. You will simply forget about this goal, and even sooner than you think. Record, record, record.

All goals simply must be on paper or in your notebook. If you don't like your handwriting, you can type the outline into Word and print it out. This will be even better, because you can hang it above your desk and you will always remember it.

No. 8. Be flexible

You are clearly confident that in five years you will buy an apartment, for example, in Istanbul. But then 5 years pass, you have saved up money for your goal, and are ready to fulfill your dream, when suddenly it begins in Turkey civil war. And as luck would have it, its epicenter is in Istanbul. Of course, this example is conditional, and Fortrader experts hope that there will never be a war in Turkey. We say this to mean that life can make adjustments to our current plans, and you should be prepared for this.

And it doesn’t matter if instead of an apartment in Istanbul you move to your own house in Bulgaria, because you also like this country. You should not be afraid of changes and adjustments, because this is also part of our life. Not everything in it can be foreseen with 100% probability.

No. 9. Don't forget to encourage yourself

Of course, you should only include in your plan those tasks that will bring you closer to your goal. But this does not mean at all that you should not add a few pleasant “bonuses” to it.

For example, if you have always wanted to sign up for dance courses, or visit Japan, but these tasks are in no way consistent with your ultimate goal, include them in your plan anyway. The most important thing is that your entire plan does not consist of only “wants”. And pampering yourself from time to time is not a sin.

No. 10. Right now!

25 797 3 Why is it so important to write down your goals for the next few years, year, month, week? What is the power of the written word? Much has already been written about this. But main idea is as follows.

In order for your plan to come true, it is important to believe in it, to fill it with thoughts about it every day, every minute. Live towards this goal, for the sake of this goal. It is also very important that the goal is clear; if it does not have boundaries, it will be just a dream that is unlikely to come true.

But how can you fill your thoughts with what you have in mind if you are distracted by daily affairs (children, work), huge amount other information (social networks, TV, tablet, phone, etc.). In caring about our family and problems at work, we forget about our main goal and what needs to be done to achieve it.

Take half an hour to sit down, think and formulate in a notepad ( For this, it is better to select a separate notebook so that you can then adjust the goal and stages to achieve it) “what do you want to get in this life.” Try the “who will I be in 30 years” technique. Write an essay detailing who will surround you, where you will live, etc. in 30 years.

Write down the steps on the way to your goal. Break them down into smaller ones, down to what you need to do this month.

It is important that all your actions, every day, every hour, are aimed at achieving your goal.

Clarity and reality of goal- another important rule.

If you like baking cakes, you don't have to dream of making a million in the stock market. Set realistic goals, taking into account your capabilities. The more real they are, the more likely you are to get it soon.

By writing down a goal, you begin to better understand yourself and what you need.

If your goal is a two-story house on the Black Sea coast, describe in detail, for example, how you first buy an apartment in your city, rent it out, save a certain amount for ** years and buy your cherished house. Describe your feelings about this. Who will come to visit you and how you will spend time in your home.

A clearly formulated goal is half the success on the path to achieving it.

If your goal is to drive a car certain brand and models, write about what feelings you will experience, where you will go on it, who will be nearby. Imagine how you hold a steering wheel that has the logo of a car manufacturer, etc. The more detailed the description, the faster you will get closer to your goal.

How does it work?

Very simple. Through fine motor skills fingers, brain activity is activated, new thoughts and ideas come, the visualization mechanism is launched.

Immerse yourself in what you have written, periodically take out your notes, re-read and correct them.

Of course, for the full effect, it would be great to use other visualization methods and mechanisms. For example, meditate or make a photo collage. Many people I know have photo collages that hang proudly above their workspace. Every day, unconsciously, they glance at the collage and the projection mechanism starts up in their heads. While working, they unconsciously focus on their main goal.

Some people simply create a folder in the “cloud” and periodically upload pictures of ideas they like (decorative toys for a future children’s room, a good angle of their favorite car, a view from the window of a two-level apartment on the 23rd floor, etc.).

A clear goal stimulates our thinking, our efficiency awakens, and the energy to act and achieve appears.

It works, it works! The main thing is to wish for something sincerely, with all your soul and try in every possible way to do at least something to make your goal come true. So that it doesn’t happen, like in that joke when a man asked God every day to help him win the lottery, but he never even bought a lottery ticket.

If you did everything correctly, you will immediately feel how you are charged with energy to do something, you will have ideas and plans. You will feel as if your eyes have been opened. This good sign, then you are going to in the right direction. Don’t be upset if you realize that you haven’t done anything to achieve what you planned before. It's never too late to start. Break down your goal into several stages. Describe by what period and what needs to be done in order to get what you want as a result. Set small goals every day towards your big goal.

You don't have to tell your friends or family about it. Many may not understand this and laugh. But this is your life and you do not have to account for your actions to anyone. If you want to achieve or receive something with all your heart, all methods are good.

Goals are like fuel for the furnace in which future success is smelted. The larger and clearer they are, the more you think about them, the stronger your inner impulse and desire to achieve them.

If I haven't convinced you yet, here are the statistics.

• 10% of people who write down their goals achieve their goals 90% of the time.
• The 20% who knew what they wanted but didn't write down their goals achieved their goals 40% of the time.
• Everyone else worked all their lives for other people's goals.

If anyone practices this, write to us about your results in the comments to the article. Good luck to you!

How to set goals correctly. Goal setting techniques.

Start big, achieve even more, and never look back. We must always go beyond. (Arnold Schwarzenegger)

This article is a continuation of the article “How to set goals correctly and achieve them. Why you need to be able to set goals”, where we looked at the main reasons why people do not achieve their goals and what proper goal setting means.

In order to independently and CORRECTLY set goals for yourself and, accordingly, achieve them, I will tell you 10 rules (or you can call them secrets, tricks) for achieving your goal.
Even if you use at least some of them, you will significantly change the difference between “your BEFORE” and “your AFTER”.

Correct goal setting includes 10 rules:

1. Break your life down into component areas.

Career, business, family, communication, self-development and others that you have.

Determine which of these areas are most relevant and valuable.

Here is a great opportunity to see what your personal life is filled with...

2. Identify the areas of your life that provide the most meaning to you

If you find it difficult to determine at first which area provides the greatest value, think about what you will always find time for, no matter how busy and tired you are.

For example, even if you return tired from work, you will always find the time and energy to chat with your child or sit him on your lap (if the child’s age, of course, allows it).

3. Create yourself two time diagrams:

The first is what you have time for and what you spend it on.

The second is what you would like to devote more time to, what you would like to spend less time on. This is a diagram of the ideal use of your time.

Compare these two diagrams.

You will get the answer to what is taking up your time now and what you should change in your life to get closer to the second diagram.

4. Dream! Yes yes, Dream!

Think about what you are striving for, what you want to achieve, what will make your life truly fulfilling and happy?

I usually have dreams like this when internal dialogues with myself: a lot of options go through my head about what I want to be or what I want to be able to do, and as a result the most bright image.

5. Many of your dreams can become your life goals.

What is the difference between a desire and a goal?

A desire is simply a dream, an idea, a thought.

And the goal has its own criteria and guidelines, by which you can determine how much you have already done and how much you still have left.

Take yourself mentally into the future.

What and how should change in your life?

Set yourself guidelines for goals that you will move towards.

6. Your goals must be specific.

You must clearly understand what you want, so your goals should be as specific as possible.

“Becoming a businessman” is an example of a non-specific goal. Absolutely nothing is clear:

• In what area (what do you want to do)
• Thanks to which
• What does it mean to you to be a businessman: for some it means opening a company with a multimillion-dollar income, but for others it is enough to cover their living minimum with the help of “buying and selling”...

Maximum specificity:

• When?
• With whom?
• How many?

7. Define your quantitative criteria for achieving goals

A question to check the correctness of defining the criteria: “How will I understand that the goal has been achieved? »

• Not to become strong, but to do 100 push-ups.
• Not to become rich, but to earn 978564.00 money.
• Not to lose weight, but to lose -20 kg of weight.

8. Give your goal a time frame for when it should be achieved.

This will motivate you to achieve it as quickly as possible and put you within a clear time frame.

Set a time range for your goal

Are you familiar with the situation when you rewrite some goal from year to year? Do you know why? Because you didn't set a time frame for it!

• Earn 978564.00 money by the end of this year.
• Do 100 push-ups in 1 minute.
• Lose -20 kg of weight in 4 months.

9. Set realistic goals for yourself

Realistic goals- these are those goals that you can accept in your mind, which do not make you feel that you and your goal are completely different components of the world.
For example, the goal of flying into space is not realistic for the average person who has only seen space on TV.
But for a professional pilot who has dreamed of space since childhood, this goal is much more realistic.
Although... Now for “many millions of dollars” you can fly into space without preparation, right from the couch. This significantly increases the reality of this dream for ordinary citizens. All that remains is to find many millions)))

How to set goals and achieve them? How do you understand that the goal is “yours”? Why don't we achieve some goals? How to move on dead center and enter your bright future now? Read about this and much more in this article.

How to correctly formulate goals

IN lately It has become fashionable to make a “Dream Map”, make lists of goals, and you have probably already read more than once about how to correctly formulate goals. I’ll tell you briefly how goals are set for smart technology. The goal should be:

1. Specific
2. Measurable
3. Achievable
4. Realistic
5. Determined in time

In other words, if you dream of having your own home, your goal should sound something like this: “I am buying a house in the center of Sochi for ten million rubles in February 2021.” And don't forget that the goal must be realistic. If now ten million is indecent for you large amount, or for some reason you do not have the opportunity to move to Sochi - do not set such a goal for yourself. First of all, you must believe in yourself and have an adequate attitude towards your goal. Without your sincere belief and calm attitude towards the possibility of achieving this goal in 2021, the goal has no meaning.

The goal must be positive. There should not be a “no” particle in your formulation (because your subconscious mind does not hear it) and there should be no negative words that come from the opposite direction. Such as “get rid of”, “stop” or “stop”. These words are usually followed by what you want to get rid of, not what you are going towards. For example, the goal “I want to stop drinking” is entirely focused on drinking, not on the lack of it. Also, the goal “I want to lose seven extra pounds” refers our subconscious to extra pounds, not to being slim.

The positivity of the formulation lies in the fact that it should contain only positively colored words. They focus your subconscious on what you want to achieve, rather than on what you want to get away from. The goal should be aimed at something, instead of moving away from something.

A correctly formulated goal is already a big step towards it. Most people don't even know how to formulate goals correctly and don't write them down. If you don't want to be among the majority, take your diary or piece of paper and right now correctly formulate your main goal.

So, we learned how to correctly formulate goals. We are already at the start. Now it is important to familiarize yourself with the rules of the game and begin to confidently move towards your bright future.

How to set goals and achieve them - 7 simple rules

If a person lives his life without specifically realizing where he is going, and his thoughts are scattered, he will not be able to achieve his goal. A person living in this way, at this moment solves someone else's problems, unknowingly helps others achieve their goals.

In order to start confidently moving towards your goal, you must first of all be confident in yourself. How to raise self-esteem and build inner confidence in your abilities, read this.

When a goal first appears in a person’s head, it means that he already has all the resources to achieve it. Our subconscious forms only those desires that we can potentially fulfill.

So if you don’t live with the flow, but strive for something more, and if you already have a correctly formulated cherished desire in your head and on a piece of paper, then fulfill these simple rules. They will help you start moving confidently towards your goal. So, how to set goals and achieve them - 7 rules:

Rule #1: The goal should only be you

Exclude other people from your goal. Your goal should be only you. When a goal includes another person, she becomes dependent on him. All this “I want him to marry me” or “I want my mom to stop controlling me” doesn’t work! The goal should be only yours, and depend only on you. As you get closer to your goal, the space around you will change, and maybe this will make your loved one want to marry you, or maybe your mother will look at you differently and allow you to make your own decisions. The main thing is that on the way to achieving your goal, focus only on yourself, and everything else will follow.

Consider the goal in detail. You need to clearly see the goal and the path to it. What color will the house on the seashore be? Where exactly will it be located? How exactly will you save money for it? How much will you save each month? If you know where you are going and clearly see your goal, over time the path to it will begin to appear by itself, out of nowhere, space will begin to change circumstances to suit your goal. Remember, the road appears under the steps of the walker. So go ahead and don't stop one step.

Rule #3: Are you worth it?

Don't confuse a goal with a dream. Ask yourself: “Do I deserve this?” Often we want something and at the same time understand that we do not deserve it for some reasons and excuses we have invented. As a result, we are afraid to achieve it. We need to boldly face the truth. To be afraid of your goal means, on an unconscious level, to not believe that you can achieve it. If you think you deserve your goal, then go for it! If not, read the fourth rule.

Rule #4: Share until you deserve it.

Break the target into pieces. Every time you share a goal, ask yourself the question: “Do I deserve this goal?” Divide it until the answer sounds affirmative and confident. You are definitely worthy of this small goal, so start with it.

Danger! Don't discount your goal if it seems small to you. Ask yourself: “What more do I need this for?” Achieve it with the same zeal and tenacity with which you strive for a global goal.

Rule #5: Eco-Friendly

The goal must be environmentally friendly. In other words, it shouldn't negatively impact other areas of your life. Achieving some goals may entail, for example, breaking a relationship, losing a job or losing friends. We may not suspect this, but our subconscious mind takes this into account, and as a result prevents us from achieving our goal, trying in this way to protect us from losses.

Let's return to the goal of purchasing a house in Sochi. If, for example, one of your close relatives periodically needs your help or, say, your child would not like to leave, he has friends and school here, then your subconscious will prevent you from achieving your goal. You will actively strive for it, but something will constantly stop you.

In the world of cinema, the so-called “love story” has recently appeared. Oscar's curse": over the past couple of decades, almost all women who received the coveted statuette divorced their husbands after the award. Could they have known that their goal was not environmentally friendly? Ask yourself: “Will achieving my goal have a negative impact? negative impact to other important areas of my life? And if it turns out to be the case, are you willing to lose something important in order to achieve your goal?

Rule #6: Focus on the goal

Where attention is directed, energy flows there. What is your focus? On the grievances of the past? Or maybe it runs from one thought to another? Or maybe it is aimed at TV series and social networks?

Focus all your attention on the goal, think about it constantly, and do, if possible, only what brings you closer to it. This is the only way you can achieve it.

Rule #7: Do whatever it takes to get closer

Don't stand still. Each activity either moves us away from our goal or brings us closer to it. Constantly ask yourself: “Is what I am doing now moving me closer to my goal or further away from it?” Don't get carried away with the little things, focus on the main thing. The moment you don't do anything to get closer to your goal, you move away from it. Think, while you are lying on the couch, someone else is already achieving your goal.

How to understand that the goal is “yours”?

There are goals that for some reason are not being achieved. They end up on our target list by mistake. Probably someone imposed them on us, and we began to think that we ourselves wanted it. So how can you check whether a goal is “yours” or not?

It's very simple. Energy is released for any goal. If you have the strength for this goal, then it is yours. Your goal itself gives you the energy to achieve it.

The most important resources are within us. This is a high energy level, a desire to do something, interest in it, as well as any positive emotions. Here's everything you need to achieve your goal. If, as you approach your goal, you feel an emotional and energetic uplift, then you are on on the right track. After the first few steps towards “your” goal, you will have a drive, you will want to do more and more, get closer to the goal faster, you will go into a frenzy and will do everything until you get what you want.

If the goal exhausts you, you have no strength for it and you always want to take a break or get distracted, then this is not your goal. And don't even try, you won't be able to achieve it. And if by chance you are able to do this, it will not bring you the desired satisfaction.

What to do right now to ensure you achieve your goal

Take a pen and a piece of paper. Write down your goal according to all the rules you read above. Now write down point by point what you will do step by step to get to this goal. Our brain is designed in such a way that if you break down the goal into points, and these points are simple and even pleasant for you, then the brain will automatically start working.

Once you have written down all the steps, select four of them. Do one right now. Three more this week. This way you will launch in your subconscious the mechanism of movement towards the goal. This week you will determine whether this is your goal or not. If yes, she will begin to pull you towards her like a magnet. You will be surprised where strength, energy, people, money will come from somewhere for your goal. The main thing is not to lose regularity in your pursuit of the goal, the goal will pull you towards itself, but you will also need to make efforts to achieve it. And if these efforts are regular and systematic, then you are guaranteed to achieve great success.

Conclusion

Congratulations! You've just learned how to set goals and achieve them. Remember where your attention is directed, energy flows there. And where your energy is, there is your goal. The more attention and energy your goal receives, the faster circumstances will adjust to its implementation.

Keep your focus on your goal, think about it, consider it in detail. What does she look like? How do you feel when you think about her? Are you feeling good? Then boldly go to her, and not a step back! Remember: every second either moves you away or brings you closer to your goal. So keep control of your movement and don't stop at anything.

And don't forget to download my book How to Love Yourself. In it, I share the most effective techniques with which I once raised my self-esteem, became confident and loved myself. This book will be a big step towards your goals! After all, achieving any goals begins with self-love.

I wish you to achieve all your goals! If you need individual help and support along this path, you can contact me for psychological help. I will help you learn how to achieve your goals. Even those that now seem unrealistic. We will work with motivation, self-discipline, and everything that hinders and helps you achieve what you want.

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I believe that you will succeed!
Your psychologist Lara Litvinova

When you realize what you want, don't stop, dig even deeper. Is this your goal? Is this what you want? Maybe your mother wants this, the environment or other other people’s voices are imposing theirs?

Are you sure you really want this? Choosing and correctly setting a goal is half the battle and the basis for a successful outcome. Let's look at the criteria for correctness.

Specificity

It is not enough to set the goal “apartment”. It is necessary to describe the nuances in as much detail as possible, otherwise discrepancies are possible. An apartment seems to have appeared, there is a place to live, but it is not yours, you cannot dispose of it as you please. This apartment is the wrong size, in the wrong city, it’s not an apartment, but a room in a communal apartment. Has the goal been achieved? Yes. Is this what you wanted? No.

Wrong target: apartment.

Correct goal: three-room apartment without encumbrances in the center of Moscow in my ownership.

Measurability

Let's say your goal is to become a popular blogger. Thanks to social networks, there is a simple and concrete sign of popularity - large number subscribers. If you find it difficult to determine this figure for yourself, look at how many subscribers the person you consider popular has, and take this number as a guide.

Wrong target: I want to be popular.

Correct goal: 5,000 followers on Facebook.

Reachability

As one boss said, ask the impossible, you will get the maximum. Set yourself ambitious goals, desire in your heart to jump above your head, believe in yourself, and then land and take into account objective reality. There is no point in setting yourself the goal of growing a third arm.

Wrong target: I want people not to get cancer.

Correct goal: employment with a cancer organization.

Significance

Ask yourself the question “Why?” Repeat until you come to an answer like “This will make me happy,” “I will feel fulfilled,” “I will be fulfilled as...”. Ultimately, most human desires come down to these simple things. Therefore, it is not recommended to set a goal of a certain amount of money. Money is not a goal, it is a means to achieve something that will bring joy, benefit, and happiness.

Wrong target: I want a lot of money to buy a yacht.

Correct goal: yacht.

Deadlines

The deadline is a necessary parameter to achieve the goal. Without buoys, the sea of ​​time seems endless, but suddenly life passes. An approaching deadline stimulates acceleration and will help correlate current progress with the remaining time.

Wrong target: I want to learn to draw.

Sign of goal achievement

By what sign will we understand that the goal of “getting married” has been achieved? An official document will appear confirming this - a marriage certificate. I’ll say a seditious thought, but in achieving a goal we move rather not towards the goal itself, but towards a sign of its achievement. Without a sign of achievement, the goal ceases to be specific. It's not enough to want your own car. The car becomes mine the moment my name is entered into the vehicle passport.

Incorrect sign: Dodge brand car.

Correct sign: PTS for a Dodge car.

Tools for achieving goals

Countdown

Register key stages in order from last to first. The question “What is needed to..?” will help with this. Determine the approximate deadlines for each stage so that you can check the plan later.

Example

Goal: October 2019 - housewarming in own home which I will build.

• What do you need to celebrate a housewarming in the house that I will build? Interior decoration (September 2019).
• What is needed for interior decoration to appear? Bring up communications (May 2018).
• What is needed to carry out communications? Cover the roof (April 2018).
• What does it take to cover a roof? Build walls (March 2018).
• Lay the foundation (September 2017).
• Select a construction contractor (June 2017).
• Order a project (April 2017).
• Find an architect (tomorrow).

So we come to the first step: write a post on social networks tomorrow and ask to recommend an architect.

Action every day

Take at least one action every day to achieve your goal. Even if you only have enough energy for one microtask, let it be done: curtains, call the architect and discuss the date of the meeting.

Creating an Environment

Fill the air. Subscribe to thematic resources, meet and communicate with experts and experienced people, read, watch. This contributes to the accumulation of knowledge and helps not to forget about the goal.

It is ideal if loved ones support, encourage, and help. Specialists and experienced people can also provide moral support, not limited to just expertise.

Self-tuning

A method for those who do not deny that thought is material. Put yourself in the image you want. This could be a visualization of the goal: someone draws a goal, someone makes collages from their photographs and photographs of the goal. Someone practices the principle “Live as if you have achieved it”, models and cultivates the feeling that you have what you want.

What to do if the goal is achieved or not achieved

Regardless of the result, analyze it. What hindered you in achieving your goal, what helped? What inspired you, what provoked procrastination? What should you consider or improve next time?

Analysis and adjustment:

• The goal was not achieved within the desired period. Review the deadlines and adjust them in accordance with the input data.
• The goal is irrelevant. Interests, values ​​may have changed, life situation. Adjust the goal or abandon it.
• The goal is relevant, but priorities have changed. Life has made adjustments to plans; other issues require attention. Review the goal and timeline.

Don’t regret, don’t criticize yourself, analyze, look for cause-and-effect relationships, draw conclusions. Accept a situation that cannot be changed. It will be easier if you give your all along the way and enjoy the process. Even if things didn't work out, at least you had a great time. What's next on the list?