A state of constant anxiety can exhaust anyone. Living under stress that you don’t know when it will end means steadily undermining your nervous system. But how to stop, how to stop reacting to these stimuli, how not to drive yourself into this abstract cage, so as not to find a way out of it later? We must immediately begin to unravel this tangle of misfortunes, only to do this we need to understand which thread to pull so as not to get even more entangled.

What to do to calm down and stop being nervous

The first thing that comes to mind is to take action. When you are inactive in response to something or someone putting pressure on you, you feel that you are allowing yourself to be crushed, trampled, and destroyed even more. When you do something, you already realize that you can also control the situation and even after some time turn it in your direction. But surprisingly, sometimes you just need to remain inactive, at least outwardly. It all depends on the nature of the stress and its cause. And let the outsiders think that the current situation has led you into a stupor, but in reality you just need time to carefully think about your further actions. Of course, it can be difficult to concentrate at a time when you are nervous, but there are a few simple techniques that will help you put all worries aside for a while. For example, you can put a notepad or just a sheet of paper in front of you, take a pen and start writing a plan on how to get out of a state of anxiety. If you don’t have a pen or paper at hand, you can open any application on your smartphone that would allow you to write a list. It could be an electronic notepad, a text editor, or even just a calendar. The latter is preferable when you need to schedule a specific action for a specific date or hour. The same manipulations can be done on a tablet, laptop or home computer. But it’s better not to make plans on working computer equipment if you don’t want them to become the property of the system administrator or one of the other employees - well, then everything depends on the talkativeness of this character. As spies say: if you don’t want strangers to be privy to your plans, under no circumstances keep a diary! This also applies to social networks: it is there that you should not store information that could be turned against you. If the reasons for your nervous state are serious enough, then the plan for getting out of it should be as secret as that of an intelligence agent. It’s another matter when part of the intended actions involves putting some information into the public domain. But this should be a thoughtful and balanced post, taking into account the reaction to it various groups subscribers and guests of your page. It all depends on the nature and scale of the stressful situation.

When everything is annoying

The state when you are ready to burst into flames like a match does not arise overnight. This must be preceded by a series of failures or experienced stress, to which it was simply not possible to immediately react violently. Then all the negativity slips into the subconscious, making harmful changes there, and behold: a pretty, friendly creature suddenly turns into a real fury. “Don’t approach her!” - colleagues or acquaintances will say about you. And if you have any kind of leadership position, then you will turn into a person from whom you cannot even beg snow in winter. And those around you will have no idea that you yourself feel bad in your soul, so you always lash out at your subordinates. But to break this vicious circle, you need to start with yourself, because everything around you cannot suddenly become bad, unlike your mood. What needs to be done for this? Figure out what was the catalyst for your resentment towards the whole world. What exactly brought you to this state of mind? Most likely, it was some carelessly spoken word, an accidentally thrown remark, or some insignificant event, in the form of a torn buckle from a favorite shoe or a stain that would not wash off from a new blouse. In other words, this was the last straw that overflowed the cup of your patience. From that moment on, literally everything became infuriating. So, you need to catch exactly this last drop and analyze what happened before it? Maybe some more powerful stress that you seem to have coped with, but there are still unsaid things, unresolved questions and contradictions. That is, you agreed with the situation, but morally you couldn’t accept it, and you couldn’t change it either. There may be two ways out: either you change your attitude towards what happened, or you return to this problem and solve it differently. The main thing is not that you emerge victorious, but that you stop lying to yourself that everything is fine, everything is fine, although there is a residue in your soul. Understand yourself and act! And in this you will find your peace.

After a breakup

One of the most powerful stresses comes from the breakup of a love or married couple. The only thing worse can be the death of a loved one, but it is not for nothing that the popular song sang: “Parting is a small death,” because it seems that a person who refuses meetings or life together with you, irretrievably lost. This is why many people cannot quickly recover after their husband announced that he is leaving for someone else, or the guy said that he no longer likes you, and that he dreamed of something completely different from you. We do not realize that building a love relationship is a strategic task dictated by the universe itself. And this task is the continuation of the human race. And we were created this way, capable of love, only in order to preserve the family for as long as possible, in order to give the same love to the children born. And even if we just see one love that is at risk, then our subconscious sees in this the collapse of everything - procreation, the inability to no longer find a foothold in life, etc. It's like the ground is disappearing from under your feet. This is why such intense emotional pain can accompany a breakup. And it is precisely this state of mind that does not make it possible to correctly assess the situation and analyze it from beginning to end. Surprisingly, not every relationship breakup is permanent. Sometimes a person can come to his senses and return. As long as you are not connected by family ties, the guy believes that he has the right to choose the best one for himself. For some, it’s normal to have an affair with another girl in order to “make sure that his first choice is still better”! Yes, these are exactly the kind of excuses that friends often hear from a guy when they decide to shame him for his frivolous attitude towards his girlfriend. If this happens to a guy, then you need to gain composure, fold your hands like a pretzel and say: “Well, well, let’s see what comes of this...” If possible, say this not to yourself, but to him. If a young man sees your self-confidence, then he may well give up in front of her and not try to have an affair on the side anymore. Even spouses who left the family return, not to mention boyfriends. A husband who has fled to his mistress may suddenly realize that she is not such a good wife and will leave her. Where should he go if not to his home? Especially if he has children there. Beg your wife's forgiveness - and the job is done!

Bouncing back after divorce

It happens that a love triangle situation leads to divorce. It is very difficult when a man is the initiator of a breakup. This means that he leaves for his mistress, and she becomes his legal wife. As a rule, such an act causes great psychological trauma to an ex-and very loving wife, and it can be incredibly difficult to pull yourself out of this state. Some ladies turn to psychologists or psychotherapists because they are unable to overcome the sadness that has fallen on them. However, in most cases, it is women who initiate divorces. Representatives of the fair sex can radically break off relationships. And although in terms of earning big money and in building a career, men are still successful in our country, yet the weak half of humanity has some trump cards to feel more independent. On the one hand, a woman still stands at the stove after work, cleans the apartment on weekends, etc., but she absolutely does not need to look for someone who will do it for her. Just as she managed the housework herself before, that’s how she will continue to cope. Men's housework is episodic. Fix the broken one water tap or a burnt-out wiring can be done by a specialist called to the house, and an employee or neighbor, or even migrant workers from a neighboring construction site, can hang a cornice or shelf. This is why it is much easier for a woman to declare that she no longer needs a husband: you cannot buy her with delicious borscht or buns. Men themselves often forget that they need to constantly win over their weaker half: take them to restaurants, buy perfume, beautiful clothes, go on vacation together. That’s why they are often surprised when their wives tell them they are ready to divorce. Of course, a husband’s inertia is not yet a reason for divorce, but if instead of compliments a woman constantly hears her husband’s reproaches, and even worse, if he raises his hand against her, then this is a good reason not to tolerate such a tyrant in the house. Groundless jealousy is also common reason, according to which a woman either really begins to have affairs on the side, or breaks off relations with her husband, whose claims she can no longer tolerate. But here’s what’s surprising: many women, even after the divorce they initiated, continue to follow their ex-husbands and even get jealous when they start an affair with another woman. It is quite difficult to explain such an extremely irrational approach to the situation from a logical point of view. Here either vindictiveness or false intentions during a divorce plays a role. If you are vindictive, you will wish your ex that nothing will work out for him on the personal front, at least until it works out for you. If you are not vindictive, but simply jealous, then it turns out that you initiated the divorce in vain. You just had to give your husband an ultimatum: either he stops being outrageous, or he leaves. But if you still love him, then you shouldn’t break up with him completely. If you thought that he was the last moral monster who could not be allowed close to either you or your children, then you should only feel better because he found himself another passion. This is a complete guarantee that he will stop knocking on the threshold of your house. But ex-husbands often do not stop and periodically visit to “check their property,” and such visits are often extremely unpleasant. Divorce should be seen as a path to a new, free life, where you can do whatever you want:

devote yourself to children; find another husband; go traveling without fear of becoming a victim of someone’s delusions of jealousy; start your own business.

Divorce is freedom, and this word does not fit well with the concept of “dejection.”

After bereavement

The real reason for sadness is when someone dear to you dies. It will not only be about the possible death of her husband. It’s hard after the loss of a grandmother or grandfather, parents, beloved aunt, friend. Any person who was in your environment and played a role in your destiny is always dear, and if death takes him, it is extremely difficult to recover from this. Locking yourself in a room, and at the same time in yourself, is not the best solution. It is no coincidence that funerals were invented, which attract many people who knew the deceased. It is no coincidence that these people also gather for funerals. When we meet those who can tell us something about the untimely departed, our souls somehow become warmer, it seems that this person is still with us, he just left somewhere. On other days, there is no need to close yourself off from the world and spend time communicating. If you are a believer, then you can pray and go to your confessor. If the church occupies a small place in your life, then just try to be with friends, acquaintances, and do something more often. Sometimes it helps to read esoteric books, from which you can get much more information about the immortality of the soul than from what the official religion offers us. When you really believe that the departed person is now in heaven or that he will find a much more successful incarnation in a new body, it will be easier to cope with the loss. Just don’t let yourself be drawn into a sect: sectarians often take advantage of someone’s grief to convert them to their faith.

After experiencing stress or a strong quarrel

What caused the stress? If some person is to blame, against whom you don’t seem to hold a grudge, then you will subconsciously consider yourself to be guilty. All you need to do is call him to negotiations and make sure that he also takes a share of the moral responsibility for the conflict. And this should not be revenge, but rather an educational process. After all, if you leave another person’s offense forgiven when he has not repented, then he will continue to do evil to others, without even thinking about the fact that he is wrong. As for you, without talking and dotting the “E”, you will be disappointed in the world around you. Usually in a conflict situation both parties are to blame. Someone fanned the fire, someone did not want to listen, one thing after another - and they came to an insoluble contradiction. Sometimes you have to look for a person who can look at the situation from the outside, understand it and reconcile both sides. But each must carry out certain spiritual work in her consciousness in order to no longer allow such quarrels and not hold a grudge. Stress can also be the result of a road accident, an accident, a violent natural disaster. There is such a thing as “force majeure circumstances.” If a flood has damaged all your property, this is very stressful. It will not be possible to return everything back. But you will have the opportunity to receive compensation and even reconsider something, arrange your life differently. For example, generally move to a better place. After an accident, sometimes you may not be able to recover your car. But you can be glad that you yourself remained alive and relatively unharmed. Some people even receive irreparable injuries, but find a reason to enjoy life, or even an opportunity to return to their former profession. Let's remember the famous rock musician Rick Allen from the group Def Leppard. In a car accident, the young man lost his left arm, but this did not stop him from continuing musical career. He plays percussion instruments mainly with his feet, with the help of several pedals, and, of course, with his right hand. The group performed all over the world and released albums, but this was preceded by a year when the rest of its members waited for their comrade to recover from the accident. He had a support point - friends. You probably have them too. And they will help in difficult times.

There are several options on how to get yourself in order after stress. Depending on the situation around you, you can choose something suitable:

"hugs"; dream; food; a glass of water; bath or shower; physical activity; communication with pets; needlework.

Having someone around to give you a hug and a pat on the head or back is always a wonderful stress reliever. You will feel protected. If the situation is such that hugging is uncomfortable, then it’s good if someone just puts their hand on your shoulder. If the feeling of anxiety does not go away until the evening, then you need to somehow persuade yourself to go to sleep. It is advisable to listen to music before this, but positive, not aggressive, calm, but not sad, but, on the contrary, inspiring. This will make it easier to fall asleep. And there - the morning is wiser than the evening. During sleep, “data” is exchanged between the subconscious and consciousness, which is why what was impossible to “arrange in order” in the evening begins to be analyzed in detail in the morning. Including your stress. And when it can be disassembled, as a schoolboy does with a word or sentence, in parts, then you yourself abstract from the events, as if perceiving them not from the inside, but from the outside, from the outside. If you can’t sleep (let’s say you’re at work), then go to lunch. Who said that stress eating is bad?! This is much better than “smoking” it or “washing it down” with alcohol. Just don't load up on a huge portion of meat and potatoes or try to finish all three dinner courses in one minute. This can only ruin your stomach. You need to take something delicious for lunch and eat slowly. In summer, well-decorated ice cream is appropriate. You won’t be able to eat it quickly, but the process itself will be enjoyable. And while you eat, the body switches from producing adrenaline to releasing digestive secretions. In winter, when you don’t feel like eating ice cream, you need to take a chocolate bar and break it into several squares, which you eat gradually. Indifferent to chocolate? Then eat nuts or dried fruits. Such food - one small piece at a time - is a meditative process, akin to fingering a rosary. Soothes 100%. Water is a carrier of energy and information, in addition to being a drink and a means of ablution. It’s good for one to take a bath, which will remove negativity. For others - a warm shower, which will invigorate you moderately and carry away all dark thoughts with streams of water. Even just drinking a glass of water - good help after stress. If you have come across information somewhere that a person in a state of shock should not be given water, then keep in mind that in medicine and in everyday life the concept of “shock” is completely different. For doctors, this means stopping some vital functions of the body, and in everyday life, shock is a synonym for stress, leading a person into a stupor. In this condition, you can and should drink water. “Running away” from stress or engaging in other physical activity is also a good method, because it allows you to transform the accumulated negative nervous energy into physical activity. Handicraft is the same, only it is work with small elements. It doesn’t require a lot of physical strength, but it is still an action, and it can also be considered a meditative process. Animals in the house are real living antidepressants. A good dog or cat will always sit faithfully or even sleep next to the owner if he feels that something is wrong with him. Even a parrot or a hamster is able to understand that its owner needs support. Sometimes dumb pets can work a miracle by communicating with their owner and bring him out of his stupor.

How to calm yourself down if you're very nervous

Nervous tension can also arise in anticipation of some events, and not after them. The unknown is scary, and when you realize that the outcome of an action depends not only on you, it can be difficult to control yourself and not panic. But a nervous state is a bad adviser, especially when you need to concentrate as much as possible. Before the exam You should always remember that you can retake the exam if you cannot pass it right away or if you are not satisfied with the grade. If you are well prepared, you will worry less than if you don’t know anything. If you have questions (tickets) for the exam, then divide their number by the number of days allotted for preparation in order to evenly distribute the load on the brain and nervous system. Planned actions will give you even more peace of mind. Before a job interview Here you need to remember that at any one company where you want to get a job, the world is not a wedge. It is likely that you yourself will not be suitable, but the chosen one will not suit you workplace. For greater self-confidence, you need to choose several companies at once where you will go for an interview. Now not only can you be chosen, but you can do it too. Always be on horseback! Before an important event in your life (wedding, birth of a child) Have you decided to get married so that you can have offspring soon? It shouldn't bring anything other than a positive attitude. A wedding is generally a holiday. So why bother yourself? It used to be, when sometimes the bride and groom were just getting acquainted at a wedding, and their parents decided everything for them, then there was a reason for great excitement. Today, few people decide to connect their entire lives with a stranger. Therefore, all reasons for excitement should be left behind by the time of the wedding celebration. But you need to prepare for the birth of a child not only physically, but also mentally. Being a mother is difficult, caring for a baby when you have little strength yourself is not easy. But you need to know that caring for a baby is not a routine. After all, this is a living person who still doesn’t realize much, but already loves you. And you are his. Love overcomes all difficulties. It is childbirth that causes more concern, since this process is painful and does not always go smoothly. Sometimes pregnancy, especially the first one, contributes to a nervous state. During pregnancy Poor health is, unfortunately, a frequent companion of a pregnant woman. The body works in an unusual mode, sometimes even experiences overload, but on the whole it copes with it. But how can a woman know how her next illness will end? But now she is responsible not only for herself, but also for the unborn child, which is why she begins to panic. Doctors add fuel to the fire by scolding the pregnant woman for her extra pounds, without even looking at the medical record, where weight loss due to toxicosis was previously noted. They scold you for high or low blood pressure, for low hemoglobin, and sometimes they recommend eating something that a woman cannot afford or has simply never eaten due to individual intolerance or way of life. But you just need to remember that you can change the doctor, even if you are covered by compulsory medical insurance. And also that pregnancy is considered one of the normal conditions women. You need to read more useful literature so as not to pay attention to the unfounded claims of doctors. You need to be ready for anything, but believe only in the good. A person who has not yet been born needs to be loved and talked to. If this does not help, then you need to enroll in a yoga section for pregnant women or simply go to special auto-training classes. Such schools for young mothers are often organized at family planning centers or at antenatal clinics. And if you live in a village, where all these institutions are far from, then just listen to the advice of older women who have already had to give birth, and maybe more than once. The unknown is scary. Here, when you know more, you sleep better. Before surgery Surgery is no less stressful for the body than childbirth. And sometimes even more. After childbirth, a woman’s body produces endorphin, aptly called the hormone of happiness, as determined by physiology. It helps the whole body to recover well, but for the postoperative period nothing of the kind is “provided” by nature. Therefore, the production of the necessary hormones depends only on your mood. If you believe that the operation will bring benefit, and its absence will cause harm or death, then you will agree to surgery with joy. Are you afraid of general anesthesia? Then you need to talk to the anesthesiologist before the operation and discuss what you fear most:

allergies; do not recover from anesthesia; that your consciousness will suffer.

The specialist will be able to select the anesthesia that suits your indications. At the same time, you can make sure that cardiac monitoring is carried out during the operation, thanks to which the surgical team can see how well your heart is working. So, while you are sleeping, you are still being monitored and all emergency measures will be taken if something goes wrong. Before your flight or departure Believe me, many people are afraid to fly when they become adults. However, children rarely correlate information they hear somewhere about a plane crash with their own journey. For them, flying is something that takes their breath away. This is so interesting! On an airplane, when only clouds float past the window, an adult can feel bored. But for this there are books, games on a tablet or phone, scanwords or collections of puzzles. The main thing is to occupy your consciousness with something that would not allow dark thoughts to creep in there. Traveling by train is absolutely wonderful! Views from the window flying past villages, fields, forests and cities, rivers in which lights are reflected. You need to set yourself up for romance, and not think about the fact that a trolley or electric train will drive into the back of the train. Trains and planes are driven only by professionals, unlike cars. That is why motor transport is considered the most dangerous, and not air or rail transport. But if you go on a trip by car, then try to keep your eyes on the road, don’t sleep while driving, and if you feel sleepy, then pull over to the side of the road or even further away from the road and sleep. Only when your strength is restored can you continue on your way. Following basic rules will greatly protect you.

How to control yourself during a panic attack without medication

First you need to understand what this newfangled term “panic attack” is. In some incomprehensible way, it has gone beyond medical diagnoses, and now everyone who is not too lazy uses it in relation to any fear or stress. Doctors understand a panic attack as systemic manifestations, both from the psyche and in the form of organic lesions. Person at panic attack he may vomit, his heart begins to pound, it becomes difficult to breathe, he feels either hot or cold. Of course, with such symptoms you need to consult a doctor. But less intense manifestations of panic, in which not all of these symptoms are observed, but perhaps only one, you can try to overcome yourself. If it is not the somatic, but the emotional component that predominates, then you can try to come to your senses on your own, without resorting to the help of strangers in general, and not just doctors. Put everything aside for a moment and come to your senses If you have firmly decided that you need to come to your senses on your own, then first of all leave the conflict zone. If you are thrown into panic by the director's scolding, then leave his office, you can go out into the courtyard or the nearest square, if it is not separated by a busy street. highway. After all, you first need to stop being very nervous in order to adequately respond to dangers. If you're pissed off phone call, then stop talking and turn off the device altogether. If you were working at this moment, then put aside your work and be distracted by something more pleasant. Office workers are advised to switch to a computer game or browse websites on abstract topics. But for those who work in dangerous work, it is better to call in sick and go to the rest room to recover. Meditation or prayer to calm the soul It is much easier for a believer to come to his senses because he feels supported Higher powers. Those who practice yoga or meditate also find it much easier to cope with emotions. Learning to meditate is not as difficult as it seems. Today there are many websites that provide instructions on how to begin the meditation process. As for yoga, some people are put off by the difficulty of performing asanas. But breathing exercises are also yoga, and you can perform them even while sitting on a chair, and not on the floor in the lotus position. You can also study breathing according to the Buteyko system, which is excellent for gaining good health and peace of mind. Relax: drink water, coffee or eat chocolate Oddly enough, coffee and chocolate, which are considered tonic foods, have a calming effect in this situation because they give strength, and strength, in turn, gives confidence. If a person is confident in himself, then he realizes that he is about to find a way out of the current situation. And when the action plan is in your pocket, the panic goes away by itself, giving way to swiftness and energy. Accept the situation and look for a way out There are situations that cannot be changed. Take, for example, being fired from your job. On the one hand, this is a loss. stable income, on the other hand – great opportunity switch to freelancing or start looking for more attractive vacancies than the place from which you were asked. This is a chance to make new useful contacts in business sphere. Finally, this is a reason to rest, especially if management chronically did not allow you to go on vacation. Temporary absence from work gives us more freedom of action and a unique opportunity to change our profession if we have wanted to do this for a long time. That is, you accept the situation with dismissal and look for a way out in the form of rest, obtaining a new specialty, enrolling in studies or even promotion, but in a new team and with different management. In the same way, divorce gives more freedom. You can understand that a coward, a lazy person, a tyrant has left you. And you have a huge field of activity. First, accept the situation and just take a break from the men in your life. Well, then - all the bachelors become your potential suitors, you just have to choose carefully...

How to learn not to worry or cry over trifles

Alas, often previously experienced severe stress makes us less susceptible to little things. But deliberately driving yourself into a stressful situation is extremely unwise. It is necessary to benefit from the stories of other people who in reality experienced almost apocalyptic events, emerging from them unharmed. If among your friends there is no one who survived a fire, a flood or a serious car accident, or perhaps got out of a foreign prison safely, then just read adventure literature, become imbued with the fate of the main characters, and this should also help. You just need to at least mentally try to balance between life and death in order to understand how minor insults and pricks of fate are insignificant to waste your nerves on.

How to calm a guy (husband, friend) when he is nervous and feels bad

If a beloved man or just a friend finds himself in a stressful situation, then he needs something slightly different than we women. Representatives of the stronger sex are proud creatures, true leaders by nature. Even if a guy looks like a pure nerd, then a true knight probably lives in his soul. So, the pity of such a person can simply humiliate, and not calm. The man is not waiting for consolation, but for some action that could give him hope. If you don’t have not only plan “A”, but even plan “B” to get out of the situation, then you just need to let your friend or lover know: “I’m with you!” Empathy and support work wonders. It is quite possible that the way out of an unenviable situation will become less vague if not just one person, but two people think about it.

It is difficult to remain calm in stressful situations. Especially when a person is tired and has no strength. It is important to understand that your nerves must be protected. Negative emotions accumulate. And this can lead to a nervous breakdown. Therefore, a person’s task is to learn not to be nervous. You can effectively calm your nerves at home, without the use of sedatives.

Adequate sleep relieves nervous tension

How to understand when the nervous system needs rest

Everyone has had a moment in their life when they want to cover their heads with a blanket and not see anyone. Such sensations are a signal: the body needs help. This is the last stage of stress. There are three of them in total:

1. Protection.
2. Adaptation.
3. Exhaustion.

At the first stage, the nervous system optimizes the functioning of all systems and organs, the level of adrenaline and hormones in the blood increases sharply. At the second stage, the body continues to work for wear and tear without sleep or rest. In the third stage, the nerve cells die. This reduces the body's performance.

Restoring nerve cells is the main task, since most diseases are provoked by nervous disorders. Long-term stress can cause illnesses: tension headaches, brain tumors. It causes disruptions in the functioning of the cardiovascular system, thyroid gland etc. Symptoms of nervous exhaustion:

• sleep disturbance;
• nervousness;
• loss of appetite;
• apathy;
• lethargy;
• exacerbation of chronic diseases.

How to increase stress resistance

To calm your nerves, you need to establish a daily routine:

• healthy sleep;
• proper nutrition;
• drinking regime.

The busy pace of life forces people to refuse a full breakfast or lunch. This leads to vitamin deficiency. The body needs vitamins for optimal cell development and repair. B vitamins are responsible for neuronal regeneration. large quantities they are found in garlic, raw potatoes, nuts, and dairy products. Multivitamins A and E are involved in the formation of nails, skin and hair.

Lack of vitamin D is a problem for both children and adults. It is involved in the development of bone tissue. With its deficiency, chronic fatigue syndrome develops. This vitamin is produced in the skin under the influence of ultraviolet rays. Therefore, you need to walk more in the sun.

Main building material the body is protein. It is involved in metabolic processes and promotes the release of energy. It is especially important for people to consume protein foods during a cold or during an exacerbation of allergies. The protein is involved in the construction of cells of the nervous system. It is found in sufficient quantities in buckwheat, oatmeal, white meat, and fish.

Lack of sleep provokes the destruction of nerve cells. A sleep schedule will help calm your nerves. With a lack of sleep, a person’s performance sharply decreases and their appetite disappears. In severe cases, hallucinations begin from stress and lack of sleep.

Drink more water

Humans are 80% water. With a lack of fluid, the functioning of the kidneys and adrenal glands worsens. A person of average weight should drink 2 liters of water per day.

You should avoid drinking strong tea, coffee, and sweet carbonated drinks. When consuming caffeine, fluid is quickly removed from the body. This promotes calcium leaching.

Caffeine is persistently addictive. Each time it takes more and more to stimulate it.

It is best to drink clean water

Medicines

Will help you calm down medicines. They relieve symptoms, but do not eliminate the cause. When stopping medication, a person may start to freak out again for any reason. Many drugs are addictive. It is better to take herbal-based medications. They have a mild sedative effect and practically do not cause drowsiness.

For nervous breakdowns, tranquilizers and antidepressants are prescribed, but after taking them there may be a withdrawal syndrome. Therefore, you need to learn how to calm your nerves without pills.

Traditional methods

Remedies will help calm your nerves quickly traditional medicine. They are widely used in the treatment of many diseases. People have been using the power of herbs since ancient times. Scientists have proven that medicinal plants contain vitamins and minerals that a person cannot get from regular food.

Decoctions and tinctures from:

• calendula, chamomile, hawthorn;
• mint, lemon balm;
• linden, elecampane, St. John's wort.

You can take soothing baths with herbal infusions. This is an effective way to calm your nerves without medication. Can be added to bathing water sea ​​salt and aromatic oils. Soothing baths promote rapid muscle relaxation. For prolonged stress, it is recommended to take a course of baths. The break must be at least one day.

Methods for relaxation and stress relief

Every person should know what they can do to calm down and not be nervous at work or at home. No one is immune from stress. Situations arise that can unsettle anyone. It has been proven that the most powerful tool is self-hypnosis. Self-control training allows you to give your brain the command to calm down at the right moment. Not everyone can do this the first time, but simple calming exercises will help you quickly gain control of yourself.

Method with meditation

Meditation is great for calming your nerves. This is the only method that allows you to calm your thoughts and get out of depression on your own. First study all the practices, and then choose the one that suits you. They are divided into three types:

1. Visualization - suitable for people who perceive information visually.
2. Breathing exercises are useful for people with developed sensory skills.
3. Guided practices are suitable for people who perceive information by ear.

Visualization is based on representation a certain picture, which helps to remain calm or quickly gain control of oneself in a conflict situation. First, practice at home. Try to relax and calm down - imagine the sound of the sea surf. Blue sea, white sand. The waves pleasantly cool your body, wash your mind and take away all your problems.

If you need to remain calm in a conflict, try to imagine your opponent as a buzzing fly. Imagine that you are behind the glass against which this fly is beating. She buzzes and gets angry that she can't reach you.

You can calm down using breathing techniques. Perform a breathing square: inhale for 5 counts, hold your breath for 5 seconds, then exhale for 5 counts. Do the exercise for 2 minutes.

Short management practices are audio recordings with specific text. It can be of any content. The technique is used not only to calm oneself. It can invigorate and push you to achieve your goal. You can write text and ask to read it onto disk. Let a person with a pleasant voice do this.

Water calming

Water helps improve your condition during stress. Wherever you are, try to be alone, open the water tap, look at it. Place your palms under the stream and focus on the sensations. Then massage with wet fingers collar area, whiskey

Imagine that your fears and experiences flow away with the water. This is a great way to stop worrying public speaking and relieve tension after a conflict.

“Unscrew” the problems

Take a piece of cloth or towel and twist it as if you want to wring out the item after washing. All muscles should be tense. You can focus on your body if you do the exercise alone.

At the moment of the strongest tension, throw a towel on the floor, sharply relax your whole body and arms. After this exercise you will immediately feel better.

Smoking calms you down: truth or self-hypnosis

When asked what calms the nerves, many answer: cigarettes calm them down. This the right way calm nerves for smokers. People who do not smoke regularly often turn to cigarettes during nervous breakdowns. Do cigarettes calm your nerves or not?

The process of smoking resembles breathing exercises. Measured inhalations and exhalations help calm the nervous system. We can conclude that it is not necessary to smoke to calm down.

Smoking imitates the process of gymnastics

What else can you do to calm down?

Nerves can be calmed without the use of medications:

1. Start working on yourself. Stop being nervous and worrying about anything. Learn to perceive the world differently.
2. Try to avoid stressful situations and people who can provoke them.
3. Learn to enjoy the little things and don't dwell on failures.
4. Find something to do for your soul that will distract you from bad thoughts.
5. Relief from stress is sport. During training, endorphin is produced - a substance that helps restore nerve cells.

There are different ways protect yourself from stress and reduce its impact on the body. Choose the one that suits you.

I’ll tell you how to learn to remain calm and cool in any situation without using motherwort and any other harmful substances. By applying the described techniques in practice, you will reduce the level of nervousness significantly. It will be very interesting, but first read the short introduction.

Over the past millennia, modern man has forgotten how to run all day long after potential prey and spend all his calories, but he has acquired the ability to get very nervous over any trifle. Unrest, and, as scientists have already proven, entail SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES, most of them fatal. And no matter how much a person understands this, he still continues to be nervous even because of a broken nail.

Why is a person nervous?

We all experience strong internal discomfort when we are nervous, and usually our nerves become tense when some important and responsible event or event is coming. For example, a karate competition, performing in front of an audience (dancing, singing, theater, presentation), an interview, negotiations, and so on. All this makes us terribly nervous. But here it is important to take into account the physiological and psychological aspects of the individual. Physiological aspects are associated with the properties of our nervous system, and psychological aspects are associated with the characteristics of our personality: a tendency to overestimate any events (inflating from a fly into an elephant), uncertainty, worry about the final result, which leads to severe anxiety.

As a rule, a person begins to get nervous in situations that are considered dangerous for him or that threaten his life, or when he attaches excessive significance to a particular event. The first option disappears, since a threat in our lives does not often loom before us. But the second option is precisely the reason for everyday nervousness. A person is always afraid of something: hearing a refusal, looking like an idiot in front of the public, doing something wrong - this is what makes us very nervous. Therefore, the causes of nervousness are more influenced by the psychological attitude than the physiological aspect. And so that stop being nervous, we need to understand the origin of nervousness, and, of course, begin to strengthen the nervous system. Having dealt with this, we will understand how to calm down.

Symptoms of nervousness

Do you think nervousness is a defense mechanism or an unnecessary hindrance? I think you will say both. When we are nervous, our palms and armpits begin to sweat, our heartbeat quickens, there is confusion in our heads, it is difficult to concentrate on something, irritability and aggression appear, we cannot sit in one place, there are pains in the stomach and, of course, we want to go out on a big day. I think you are all familiar with this. These are all symptoms of nervousness.

How to calm down and stop being nervous?

Therefore, firmly understand that the tendency to nervousness is not a natural reaction of the body to some event or an incurable disease of your personality. I assume that this is most likely a psychological mechanism that is firmly entrenched in your system of habits. Or it could be a problem with the nervous system. Nervousness is your individual reaction to what is happening, and no matter what the situation is, you can react in every possible way. I am sure of one thing, nervousness can be eliminated and must be eliminated, because when you are nervous:

• Your thinking ability drops sharply, and therefore it is very difficult for you to focus on anything specific, and this can only complicate the situation, which requires clarity in your head. For example, you may forget words on stage, fail to remember the necessary information during an exam, or press the wrong pedal while driving.
• You lose control over your intonation, facial expressions, and gestures, which can lead to an undesirable outcome on a date or negotiations.
• Because of nervousness, you get tired quickly, and this has a very detrimental effect on your health. And if you are often nervous, you may become seriously ill, which is highly undesirable.
• You worry about little things, which is why you do not pay attention to the most important and the right things in your life.

I am sure that it will not be difficult for you to remember cases in your life when you were very nervous, as a result of which it had a bad effect on the results of your actions. I am sure that there were moments in your life when, due to psychological pressure, you broke down and lost control of yourself. From this we can draw the following conclusions:

• There is no benefit from nervousness; it only interferes, and very much so.
• You can stop being nervous only by working on yourself.
• In fact, in our lives there are no real reasons to worry, since nothing threatens us and our loved ones, mostly we get nervous over trifles.

I won’t drag my feet, and I’ll tell you about the first way to stop being nervous. This is considered one of the best ways. Have you noticed that when you are nervous, you rush around the room, you move!!! This means that if you jog, jump, lift weights, or hit a punching bag, you will stop being nervous and you will feel much better. After physical exercise You definitely need to do breathing exercises (more on that below), or do yoga. helps and slows down the rate of aging. Why don't you have a reason?

Now let's talk about the excessive significance that we attach to certain events. Remember those events in your life that made you very nervous: your boss calls you for a serious conversation, you pass an exam, you invite a girl or guy on a date. Remember and try to assess the level of their importance for you. Now think about your life plans and prospects. What do you want to achieve in this life? Do you remember? Now answer my question: is it really that scary to be late for work and is it worth being nervous about it? Is this something you need to think about?

After all, you will agree with me that in those moments when you are nervous, it is difficult for you to focus on the goals that are important to you. Therefore, instead of worrying about trifles, it is better to start thinking about your own and think about the future, because this is what is really important to you. I am sure that after changing your focus from unnecessary to necessary, you will stop being nervous.

But no matter how positively we set ourselves up, no matter how hard we try to convince our minds that there really is no point in being nervous, the body can still react in its own way. Therefore, let's step forward, where I will explain to you how to bring your body into a state of relaxation and calm before any upcoming important event, both during and after it.

How to calm down before an important event?

So, how not to be nervous before an important event? Every minute we are getting closer and closer to an important event, during which our ingenuity, will, and ingenuity will be severely tested, and if we are able to withstand this serious test, then life will generously reward us, and if not, then we are in trouble . This event could be a final interview for a specific position that you dream of, the conclusion of an important contract, an exam, a date, etc. And if you read the article carefully, you are well aware that you need to get rid of nervousness so that it does not interfere with focusing on the goal.

You understand perfectly well that a major event awaits you just around the corner, but no matter how important it is, all the same, even the worst outcome of this event will not be the end of the world for you. So stop dramatizing and ascribing undue importance to the event. Understand that this is too important an event, and you should not let nervousness ruin it. Therefore, be collected and focused and do everything necessary for this.

So, get rid of all thoughts of defeat from your head. Try not to think about anything, free your head from all thoughts, completely relax, take a deep breath, and then exhale. As I already said, yoga will help you with this. Here I want to give you a simple breathing technique.

Here's how to do it:

• Inhale air for 5 counts (or 5 heartbeats),
• Hold the air for 2-3 counts/beats,
• Exhale for 5 counts/beats,
• Don't breathe for 2-3 counts/beats.

In general, as the doctor says: breathe - don’t breathe. 5 seconds inhale - 3 seconds hold - 5 seconds exhale - 3 seconds hold.

If your breathing allows you to take deeper inhalations and exhalations, then increase the holding time.

Why are breathing exercises so effective? Because during the breathing exercise you are focused exclusively on breathing. This is the kind of thing I keep talking about. Meditation greatly helps you calm down and stop being nervous. Your head is in a state of emptiness, so you stop being nervous. Practicing breathing exercises Not only will you calm down right here and now, but you will also put your nervous system in order, and this will allow you to be less nervous without exercise.

So, we have prepared ourselves for important event. Now let's talk about how to behave correctly during any event in order to be calm like a boa constrictor and relaxed like a sinew.

How not to be nervous during an important event?

My first advice to you is radiate calm no matter what. If positive attitude and meditation did not help you stop being nervous, then at least try to externally portray calm and serenity. The manifestation of external peace will be reflected in the internal. It works on the principle feedback, that is, not only your inner feeling determines your gestures and facial expressions, but also your gestures and facial expressions determine your well-being. It is not at all difficult to check this. When you walk down the street with a straight posture, squared shoulders and a confident gait, you... If you walk with a stoop, barely move your legs, look at the floor, then the conclusions about you are appropriate.

So watch your facial expressions, gestures and intonation, namely, eliminate all movements of a nervous person. How does a nervous person behave? He picks his ear, pulls his hair, bites a pencil, slouches, cannot express a thought clearly, is pinned to a chair. Instead, sit cross-legged, straighten your shoulders, straighten your back, relax your face, take your time to answer, think first, then speak clearly and clearly.

After a meeting or event, whatever the outcome, the same techniques given above will help you calm down. It will be better if you stop scrolling through fruitless thoughts in your head like, if I said this..., and if I did this..., and it would be better if I kept silent..., and so on. Just stop thinking. You may not be able to do this right away, but over time you will forget anyway.

Finally, I want to tell you that you should not create reasons for concern. Many people just make things up in their minds that it’s not even clear how they came up with it, this is especially true for women. Apparently, their imagination is more developed than that of men, but they just need to direct it in the right direction. Before you start worrying, carefully analyze whether it's worth it. If you can’t calm down, then just accept your situation and come to terms with it. Be nervous for your health, because sooner or later everything will end, and you will definitely calm down.

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How to stop being nervous? Rather, it’s worth figuring out not how to stop worrying altogether, turning into an insensitive mummy, but how to stop being nervous about every occasion, strengthening your nerves and minimizing energy costs. Everyone chooses their own way, someone tries to heroically solve an endless stream of problems, and someone pretends that it’s not his eye that is already twitching. But the beauty is that no matter how much you hide from the nervous and problem situations, no matter how much you ridicule them, it will give a temporary effect of relief without solving the main task of eliminating the root cause.

Meanwhile, he continues to worry about unresolved issues, i.e. background anxiety remains, but the clump of problems grows, and when the strength to cope runs out, a person is faced with the scale of the tragedy, which makes him no longer nervous, but fall into depression. The desire to resolve all irritating issues is more effective, but problems do not end and issues requiring intervention arise every day, not to mention irritating factors and people.

How to stop being nervous and become calm

For some people, the question of how to stop being nervous and worried is the most pressing one in living space, usually for such individuals all matters are important and urgent, the future is filled with worries because it is unknown, and there is not enough time in the present. Constant worry does not provide an opportunity for relaxation, because when one problem is solved, another is immediately discovered, and the quiet corners where no one gets on your nerves are over.

This is long and hard work, by definition, with its own system of priority goals in order to solve problems that are important now (i.e. if the cutlets are burnt, then focus on saving leftover meat and ventilating the kitchen, and not on the quarterly report, nerves about which and led to burnt cutlets). Rumination about the past should also not take up much time, especially negative experiences where you replay the conversation and select new answers, if these are situations where you continue to be nervous about your reputation - all this unwinds the nervous system, leading to its instability. At the same time, you cannot change these events, but you can harm what is happening in the present moment with your semi-absent state and bad mood You’ll still have time, starting the reasons for your worries in a circle. So conscious presence in the present moment of your life is the key to an adequate and full feeling of life, removing unnecessary empty experiences regarding unchangeable things or possible but not happened events.

To figure out how to stop being nervous and worried, you need to understand the mechanism by which such a worldview arises. Usually behind the increased is a person’s habit of inflating his negative emotional state, exaggerate the significance of minor troubles. To become calmer, you will have to not just swallow tranquilizers, but carry out serious intrapersonal transformations that require both external changes lifestyle, as well as internal ones, affecting the motivational sphere and the ability to concentrate and determine what is important.

For peace of mind, it is necessary to eliminate the causes of anxiety, and they may not always be expressed external factors in the form of annoying neighbors or constant incidents at work, since this happens in everyone’s life. Quicker we're talking about about the presence of internal factors that contribute to the perception of the situation overly emotionally, giving it excessive significance and not letting go over time. Among the qualities that contribute to the development of nervousness is , which, on the one hand, implies the importance of only own opinion, and it would seem that it should free a person from worries, but everything turns out to be the opposite, since one’s own importance is too inflated and requires constant feeding and admiration of the outside world. A self-centered person is not sensitive to others, but is extremely vulnerable to criticism of himself; add increased attention to the reactions of others and we get manic fixation, which can cause serious worries due to the sidelong glance of an unfamiliar passerby.

The need to always be on top gives rise to a constantly elevated level of anxiety and tension, which leads to irritation over the smallest reasons and an overly sensitive attitude even to those moments that will not excite ordinary person, such as rudeness from a salesperson or an insult from a drunk. Somewhere next to egocentrism lies the need for constant pleasure and pleasure, while everyday affairs, work, obstacles to pleasure cause excessive irritation, and a person does not calm down until he reaches the desired nirvana. The aspiration is good and characteristic of absolutely all people, but it is a priori unattainable, because life is not beautiful picture the Garden of Eden and also consists of necessity and pain, the need to endure and postpone one’s pleasure. If you do not learn such qualities, then the world can seem very cruel and cause a lot of resistance - reactions quite similar to adolescence, when the universe stops revolving around one's desires, but forces him to earn what he wants.

If the first two reasons are a product of , then among the characteristics of a more mature structure that prevents living in peace, independence also leads. Perfectionism makes a person strive for the impossible, bringing every detail to perfection (this is how not only leaves, but also dust can be swept out of the yard, a sweater can be re-knitted a dozen times, and a table for passing a diploma can be measured to the nearest millimeter). In addition, such exactingness is distributed not only to one’s own life, but also to the actions of others, causing a lot of irritation.

The requirement for perfection in everything gives rise to a lot of reasons for worries that are groundless and do not lead to results, so lowering demands and increasing the ability to enjoy what is happening and the imperfect world can bring more peace to the life of a perfectionist. Independence, as a factor that causes nervous feelings, manifests itself in its extreme forms, when a person cannot delegate responsibilities and pulls everything on himself. From such a state of overload, even little things begin to irritate, and freer friends will be fueled by a negative attitude towards others and the desire to prove their toughness by overcoming everything on their own.

The second manifestation of independence, as a factor that disturbs inner peace, is the independence of the opinion and structure of one’s personality and life from social norms; in such cases, a nervous reaction will be caused by any collision with rules that cannot be explained logically (for example, why it is necessary to come to work at eight and sit until five, if you can show up at ten and leave at four, having completed the same volume, but with better quality due to better health). Such people need to either develop their own system of life, going into private practice and freelancing, surrounding themselves with like-minded people, or try to find the advantages of the established system, which still cannot be broken.

Attempting to do everything as quickly as possible, to solve all the problems in one day is commendable, but is met with many obstacles in the form of the leisurely participation of the people involved, the closed doors of the necessary structures and the slowly moving escalator stairs. If your speed is higher than those around you, then you can be nervous while you are rushing them indefinitely; it is better to try to do other things while you wait: if you are sitting in a queue, then instead of crazy and nervous comments towards the recipient, you can do your mail, watch a training video or write the necessary article. Keep track of the time you are nervous, because in fact you cannot change the situation and use it in another useful way.

How to stop being nervous over trifles

You can't do without worries. They make us alive, show the significance of not only positive events, but also indicate problems, perform all sorts of useful functions, but how to stop being nervous about every reason that is not significant, making you worth thinking about. Ignore such a state, suppress attacks of irritation or wait for the best period to come, if it happens for a long time, then negative consequences will appear in the form of accumulation and growth of tension to a state where it is ready to spill out at the slightest provocation in an inadequately destructive manifestation. It’s great if you can find useful moments even in dirty tricks and turn minor troubles into positive signs(for example, if you are stuck in an elevator, you can be glad that you have a good reason to be late for work and take a short nap while you are freed from metal captivity). The ability to see the positive comes from the ability to accept both good personal qualities and events, as well as bad ones. And the desire to display only approved traits and adjust everything that happens to the ideal option often forces one to concentrate on the negative. If it is critically important for you that everything goes perfectly, then you will control the course of all events and especially opportunities not according to the script, the number of things requiring your participation, experience and control will increase. This all resembles a self-fulfilling prophecy, because worrying about the ideality of what is happening, you overload yourself with responsibility and nervousness so much that the chances of making a mistake increase.

Try to relax and be able to accept imperfections. Both in the manifestation of your individuality and in the world, such an attitude relieves you of unnecessary tension and worries, and automatically improves the situation, and even if it does not improve, it does not destroy your mood and health. In the end, it is much more important to remain calm than to have bows tied in the same way, to adhere to time frames down to the second and to keep the appearance in line with the latest trends in Milan.

Nerves for minor reasons give rise to problems in mood and stability of the nervous system, and if you do not work to improve its condition, then you can remove irritating factors ad infinitum, but this still will not help stabilize the emotional background, since the problem is located inside the body. To reduce the load on the central nervous system, it is worth temporarily eliminating or minimizing the consumption of substances that have a stimulating effect on it (caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, narcotic substances, some hormones), instead it is worth introducing into the diet a higher intake of B vitamins, which are responsible for the good functioning of neural connections and the conductivity of nerve pathways. During periods of nervous overstrain and stress, you should definitely support your central nervous system with the help of appropriate vitamin complexes or herbal decoctions. Ensure yourself a productive and useful rest not only during the vacation period. Let there be one day a week completely free from work issues, you can even turn off your phone so that they cannot find you and pull you out, putting pressure on your sense of responsibility. Quality sleep is the basis for restoring neural pathways, and switching activities promotes real rest.

If you spent the whole day looking at the monitor, came home and stared at the tablet, this will not reboot your nerves; you’d better take a walk or go to the gym. If your work involves physical activity, then on the contrary, it is better to spend the evening at the cinema, reading a book or quietly communicating with family. Follow a daily routine so that your psyche is prepared for the fact that at a certain period it will have to work at full capacity, but then within the designated period it will get its rest - unsystematic behavior leads to disruption and destabilization of the psyche.

If you notice that having adjusted your own life, providing the nervous system with decent conditions, nothing in your nervousness has changed, then contact a psychologist who may determine the development of neurosis (which happens if you pretend for a long time that everything is normal) or help identify the real reason problems (perhaps you are depressed by your relationship with your spouse, then no matter how much you take vitamin complexes, his presence will irritate and provoke disruptions in the functioning of the nervous system and only termination or restructuring of the relationship will help).

How to stop being nervous and worrying

You can stop worrying by limiting your fixation on the situation and work. Of course, you should anticipate various options for the development of the situation and take into account bad outcomes, but this does not mean that all thoughts should be devoted only to this. Weakening of the nervous system by worrying about the future or imagining things various options the past will not help you get rid of your worries. During the onset of anxiety, you should take care of the present situation, instead of anticipating future events. Learn to stop your mental flow and narrow the scope of perception to the current moment in those moments when experiences cover you, so you can direct the rising energy in a constructive direction, instead of exhausting your nerves. It helps not to worry about future troubles by talking (perhaps even mentally) about what is happening in at the moment(you are chewing an apple, crossing the road, making coffee - even the funniest thing said out loud brings you back to the present).

By analyzing possible failures, and then looking at the number of those that have occurred, you will get a conclusion about your good imagination. Most of all the horrors depicted by our anxiety never come true, but nerves about this are quite real, affecting the general resource of the nervous system and the quality of health of the whole organism. If you can’t get rid of thoughts about possible failures, then you can always change their course and instead of spinning the plot up to the point of a horror movie script, start thinking about ways to solve the problems that arise, or better yet, look for the benefits that can be derived from what happened. Knowing how to handle the situation, it becomes not a problem for us, but only a certain stage, and if we see a certain benefit for ourselves in this, then the fear and worries about its occurrence finally leave the emotional sphere.

Take a break from prolonged concentration on difficult or problematic issues, trying to walk more, saturating the body with oxygen, playing with pets (this activity, by the way, is a great stress reliever). You can play a game or meet with friends, attend an interesting event and add a little adrenaline to life (this hormone also helps fight stress, removes panic and a state of active activity, and can also reboot the brain and give a new vision).

If you are often nervous and worried, then add movement in the form of exercises or fitness, jogging or a pool membership - it’s all about your preferences. In addition to helping in the processing of various heavy symptoms, physical activity promotes the production of endorphins, which ultimately helps to see the world in less dark tones and, accordingly, worry less.

Aromatherapy and are excellent helpers for stabilizing the nerves. There are special mixtures of scents that have a relaxing and calming effect, as well as works that affect your emotional state and entire collections of them. All this can be found at the nearest pharmacy and downloaded to your player, the only thing is that it will take time for a noticeable effect to occur. Therefore, try to do sessions regularly, it is especially good to combine them with other types of care for your nerves, for example, doing meditative practices accompanied by appropriate relaxing music, in a room filled with aromatherapy scents. In situations where your nerves are completely at their limit or have been under the test of circumstances for a long time, if you lose control of your emotional outbursts and can scream or cry unexpectedly for yourself, it makes sense to take sedatives. They, from harmless valerian to serious tranquilizers, should be prescribed by a doctor, taking into account all the characteristics of your body, since most of them also affect the heart, the speed of reactions, may be contraindicated or even require antidepressants. In addition, a specialist may recommend working with a psychologist to resolve situations that led to such a condition and even issue a sick leave to restore the nervous system.

How to stop being nervous and learn to enjoy life

Nerves in a shattered state can seriously ruin your life, so it’s worth slightly adjusting your daily activities so that there is a place for relief from accumulated tension, and therefore an opportunity to look at the world positively. Be sure to try to take a daily walk; jogging after the bus, being late for work does not count - you should have time during which you will have the opportunity to get tired of the experiences received during the day and reflect. Let it be returning from work through the park or an evening walk along the neighboring pond.

Start clearing the emotional rubble, which contains old grievances and accusations, unsaid words and childhood complexes - all this is difficult and takes a lot of time, and the efforts of the spirit are colossal, because the experiences there are far from wonderful, but after cleansing and freeing yourself from such a burden, you will be able to feel , as there are more reasons for joy, and fewer things will cause a strong emotional reaction. Tune in to a positive perception of yourself and instead of constant criticism, let your inner voice speak encouraging speeches. Take care of your own life, protecting its happiness, because only you know what can make you happy. Of course, you want your loved ones to guess what can make you happy, but the more you silently wait for this, shifting responsibility for your happiness onto others, the more complaints accumulate against them, the more their smiles begin to irritate.

Give up the rush and the desire to do everything perfectly; instead, you can learn time management techniques and the ability to see beauty in flaws, since it is in them that uniqueness is hidden, and everything ideal is stereotyped and similar to each other. Avoid excessive stress; after work, you should have energy left for hobbies and friends, for your development and gaining new experience. To do this, learn to ask for help without fear that your reputation will suffer; on the contrary, people will begin to treat you warmer, besides, many want to be useful and like to help.

Fill your day with positivity: you can communicate more with and reduce communication with, exclude people who escalate the situation, making you nervous. Do unusual and funny things on ordinary and identical days, share it with others, you can even set yourself the goal of becoming as funny as possible, then the mood will be wonderful and what previously made you nervous will become just a reason for another joke.

Do what you love - it is always a source of peace and new life resources. Practice on principle, no matter what happens, and you will notice that by introducing this rule, all your nerves and worries will remain behind the doors of the workshop, dance class, laboratory, whatever you like.

It happens that we look for complex ways to improve the quality of our lives. And in moments when we are stressed or someone has pissed us off, we begin to actively think about how to calm down. Psychotherapists offer their help, yoga schools offer theirs. But there are ancient methods that can help you get yourself in order much faster than other means that require a lot of time or money. We have prepared 12 ways for you to help yourself calm down and stop being nervous.

Method 1: Get distracted by something

This method of relieving emotional stress is suitable in cases where you are trapped, driven into a corner and cannot escape anywhere. For example, sit at a planning meeting and listen to your boss, internally boiling. You can’t escape, but... Distraction at the same time by contemplating something extraneous, neutral and fascination with this extraneous - best way Don’t beat yourself up over trifles.

For example: “What is Masha’s manicure like... I wonder how she did it?”

This only works if you yourself understand the benefits of such a strategy - don’t look at the nasty, don’t listen to the nasty. If you like to fume and get into arguments, that’s your right.

Method 2: Leave the annoying situation (aka the emotional zone)

Did something make you sad at someone else's birthday? On a picnic? You can’t stand some group, public page, page social network? Do you dream of removing an unpleasant person from your friends list?

So, we quickly left the group forever. They banned an argumentative provocateur, a troll, a boor, a fool. Deleted your profile, if that happens.

Quickly call a taxi (don’t squeeze, don’t squeeze), kiss the hostess and rush home - away from the party, away from the barbecue, away from the irritating, emotional zone.

Method 3: Drink some water

This is already the signature recipe of all brilliant therapists who do not sell dietary supplements from pharmaceutical corporations.

A glass of water, drunk slowly, stops everything famous sciences seizures. The first thing they offer a person who has suffered something terrible is a glass of water. Drinking water triggers the body's self-rehabilitation mechanism. Most often, people feel ill for two reasons:

hysteria (sympatho-adrenal crisis in another way),
unnoticed dehydration of the body.
Since we don’t listen to our body and don’t teach healthy lifestyle, we drink tea, coffee and soda all day - we all have dehydration, and you have it too. Go drink a glass of water right now, and then read on.

Method 4: Get involved in an exciting, interesting activity

This method is suitable in a situation where you cannot be “let go.” You need to break the stuckness of chewing “And they, And I, And fuck them all” with something cool, even if it’s stupid and tasteless. Reading a detective story. Computer game. Hunting and gathering. Surveillance and tracking. An attempt to reveal someone's secret. Even by spying and eavesdropping, damn it.

You must be involved in the intrigue, in the detective story, in the rapid development of events, in the hunt, in the game, in courage, in flight. Your ears should lift and your tail should twitch.

You yourself know what can captivate and amuse you. Everyone has their own, individual thing. Just don't get carried away with this surveillance. Don't harm anyone.

Method 5: Physical release

Everyone is familiar with this method firsthand, but, as usual, no one cares. And I remind you once again that rapid physical discharge, which includes:

walking,
- swim,
- general cleaning of the apartment (possibly someone else’s),
- sex,
- destruction of trash,
- work in the garden,

- mopping floors and washing by hand
relaxes twisted muscles and relieves stress and frustration fantastically effectively. General washing by hand even helps to cope with grief - again the advice of the old doctor, which I share with you.

Method 6: Come into contact with water

Washing dishes is a free session of hypno-psychotherapy. The sound of clean running running water relieves our fatigue and takes away with it all the “dirt,” not just household dirt.

In addition to washing dishes, there is a well-known classic: take a bath, take a shower, go to the sauna, go early in the morning or in the evening - swim in the sea, in the river, in the lake, in the spring. Refresh yourself, in short.

Method 7: Positively reframe a stressful event

So much has been written about positive reframing (including by me) that I don’t want to repeat myself. I'll just give an example:

“It’s so good that it turned out that I won’t go anywhere this summer! I'm finally taking classes English language, for fitness and also for self-development courses! When else would I allow myself such a “useless” luxury? And in the summer there is low season everywhere and there are only discounts around. So I’ll save money too!”

Method 8: It could be worse, it’s even harder for others

Are you not satisfied with the outcome of the event? Imagine that there could have been a worse outcome. Imagine how bad it is for some people around you. If you master this art and stop turning your nose up at this strategy, then you will not need any psychotherapy at all.

Method 9: Laughter kills everything scary and terribly important

Ridiculing, reducing, vulgarizing something inflated and important is an ancient recipe of human culture, dating back to the Neolithic. Thanks to grandfather Bakhtin for his term “carnival-laughter culture.” Read it, take an interest.

Or watch one episode about the adventures of SpongeBob SquarePants. When he was terrified of speaking at a school seminar, a smart squirrel gave him super glasses. Wearing these glasses, SpongeBob saw all the students and the teacher... in their underpants. That was funny! True, out of laughter, he never read out his report. And what kind of panties did the teacher have... Mmm...

Method 10: Counting to 10

Just read until ten. Slowly. Controlling your inhalations and exhalations. To myself, not out loud. This is the recommendation of doctors and sports trainers.

Method 11: Cry

Crying relieves stress. With the tear fluid, the body leaves the toxic substances that are formed under the influence of stress hormones. If you can’t cry about your own things, come up with a pitiful topic and specifically cry over it.

Method 12: Verbalize everything that’s on your heart

Pronunciation or verbalization is putting a vague “something” into clear words. However, great thing. Or better yet, write it all down on paper, write a long letter. Just don't send it anywhere.Keep these methods for yourself and use them to calm yourself.